I’m a strong atheist and scientist and therefore I am totally suspicious of anything which looks or sounds like religion or “spiritual fluff”. In that regard, it’s a wonder I even touched a book with a subtitle such as “A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire”. But anyway, being able to look into different topics than your usual ones is what allows you to grow. So today, we will review David Deida’s The Way of the Superior Man.

What is really your purpose in life? How do you find it? How do you keep a healthy relationship with the woman you decided to spend more time with? How can you satisfy her properly over a longer period of time?
Deida managed to write a book consisting of many small (1-3 pages) advices around men’s most important topics: career, women, sex drive, self actualisation. While some are too extreme or woo-woo to be followed, there’s many hints and thoughts which are worth thinking about.

Let me give you a summary of two advices I found really helpful. Then I’ll give you brief overview of the other chapters.

Live With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts

He often speaks about men and their true nature: being in the moment, making rational choices leading towards your ultimate goal in life (which you have to find yourself). You can only live after your true nature if you don’t close down in “the midst of pain”. It’s better to accept pain as it is in order to get over it. When you close your heart because of hurt you trap yourself — you are no longer free. In Deida’s own words:

Closing down in the midst of pain is a denial of a man’s true nature. A superior man is free in feeling and action, even admist great pain and hurt. If necessary, a man should live with a hurting heart rather than a closed one. He should learn to stay in the wound of pain and act with spontaneous skill and love even from that place.

Lean Just Beyond Your Edge

We humans have the tendency to build our own world, our own reality in which we are comfortable with. In which we experience exactly and only the feelings we want to. It’s an artificial limiting of our horizon and basically reduced our personal growth extremely. In advice 8, Deida says personal growth is optimised if we always push the our personal edge, every single day, just a little bit. Face your insecurities, and fears. Lean beyond your edge everyday in order to not live a lesser life.

In any given moment, a man’s growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the ede of fear and discomfort. In everything he does.

The book has eight parts, each of which contains of 5-10 advices. Here is the breakdown of all parts:

Part one: A Man’s Way

Part two: Dealing with Women

Part three: Working with polarity and energy

Part four: What women really want

Part five: Your dark side

Part six: Feminine attractiveness

Part seven: Body practices

Part eight: Men’s and women’s yoga of intimacy

If you feel like extending your horizon, and getting fresh new inputs for your life, consider buying this book!

Get it at amazon.


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